Giving a great handjob isn’t just about going through the motions – done right, jacking a guy’s cock can be elevated from a basic bit of hand action to something approaching an art form.

The general rule is that it takes about 10,000 hours or 10 years of practice in order to become an expert at something. By either of those measures, most men could consider themselves grand masters when it comes to jacking their own cocks, but giving a handjob to someone else requires a different mindset and skillset.

Here’s some tips and tricks to help you deliver an unforgettable handjob.

Why a handjob over gay penetrative sex?

Sure, we could just fuck, but there’s a lot more to exploring and experience sexual pleasure than just flipping a coin and figuring out whose turn it is to be on top.

Penetrative sex is awesome, but sometimes that may not be on the table.

You may be itching for your first gay experience and don’t know where to start, or you’ve gotten into a spontaneous situation where you didn’t think about douching and want to have fun without the mess. Or, if you’re cruising in a car, a late-night hot tub, or the sauna at your local cruising gym near your home, sometimes you know you and your hand will be a lot more proficient for the location or the risk of getting caught involved.

But even if you’re confident that you will get to fucking at some point, a quality hand-job is a great inclusion in your foreplay repertoire. There’s nothing like grabbing a hard, new cock and acquainting yourself with how girthy and delicious it feels before you take this meat to your mouth, your hole, or whatever else you’ve got planned for your hook-up.

Plus, while it can’t be guaranteed, when asking yourself, “can I get an STD from a handjob?” the simple answer is that you’re generally reducing your risks of STI transmission if you avoid penetrative sex.

Gay men give some of the best handjobs!

While the results may not stand up to robust peer-review, our extensive research indicates that gay men give the best handjobs. Sure, all men love to goon and bate, but gay men have a lot more experience at jacking off another man’s penis. While a straight guy might be up for it, if the circumstances are right or they’re curious enough to tackle their first bisexual experience, a gay guy will leap at the opportunity without hesitation or shame.

How to give a great gay handjob

When it comes to giving another guy a handjob, an easy starting point is to think about what feels good when you’re jacking your own cock. The techniques that you use to pleasure yourself are probably going to feel pretty good to whoever’s cock you’ve got your hands on. But let’s just recap how to make sure that you’re bringing your A-game.

Lube

This is perhaps the most critical step and one that is often overlooked. You’re going to need some quality lube. Sure, if you’re uncircumcised, you can jack-off without lube. But this is not about quickly trying to rub one out, you want to take your time – you want to deliver some real pleasure to the man you’re with, and spit will only take you so far.

Whether the cock that you’re working with is cut or uncut, apply the lube generously to your hands and the guy’s cock. An oil-based lube is probably going to be best – you don’t want it to dry out or get tacky while you’re stroking.

Take your time – applying the lube is part of the foreplay. It’s a lot of fun to get that cock hard, get it lubed-up and ready for action.

Warm up that dick!

When you’re jacking your own cock, you might just take hold and have at – if it’s just a quick wank you probably hit it hard and fast and get the job done.

When you’re giving another guy a hand-job, you want to ease into it. Start slowly, gently. Give his balls some attention, work up and down the entire cock shaft, treat that cock with respect and build up some trust – you want that guy totally relaxed and confident that you know what you’re doing.

Use your whole hand

You want to get both hands involved. You want to use your entire hand – palms and fingers all working together, up and down the length of his lubed-up cock-shaft.

Experiment with different strokes

Put as much variation as you can into the experience. Vary the speed of your strokes, vary the length of your strokes, vary the pressure of your strokes, vary your positions – left hand, right hand, both hands.

Get a feel for which variations he responds best to. Let his body language guide you as to what to do more of and what to less of. If his body language isn’t giving you any clues, you’re going to have to ask him: “Does this feel good?” “Do you like that?” “Are you getting close?”

Finish strong

When you’re giving a guy a quality hand-job, you’re effectively edging him. If your hand-job is part of the foreplay and you’re working up to getting fucked, then you need to make sure that you don’t take him too close to the edge. But if the hand-job is the main course, then you’re going to want to ensure that you deliver a decent happy-ending.

When it’s happy-ending time, it shouldn’t take much to push him over the edge – if you’ve been edging him properly he should be already hovering in that orgasmic zone. Simply shifting up a gear and increasing the speed and intensity of your strokes should quickly push him past the point of no-return and deliver a powerful and pleasurable climax.

Study for Experience and Go for Extra Credit when Possible

Sex Ed. rarely covers masturbation in enough detail, let alone how to transfer those skills to delivering a quality hand-job to another guy. While you can get pretty efficient just by learning on the job, a bit of homework will help take your skills next-level.

The internet is a good starting point – gay handjob compilations let you watch how others tackle the task.

There’s also tantra practitioners who specialise in lingam massage. Lingam massages focus on a guy’s cock. You may not want to immerse yourself in the world of tantra, but watching lingam massage practitioners at work is fascinating and a great way to learn. Better yet, book yourself in for a lingam massage and experience those skills first-hand so you can maximise the pleasure you provide to your bate-brothers.

Written by Gareth Johnson