Whatever kind of sex you’re into, we all know that not all lubes are equal. But when it comes to fisting, making sure that you’re equipped with the right lube is absolutely essential.

Grease up and let’s get into it.

What is gay fisting?

Gay fisting is when a hand goes into the butt. It sounds relatively straightforward but it’s not something that you can rush into – you’re going to need a fair bit of patience, a bit of knowledge and experience, and plenty of lube.

Why is lube necessary for fisting during gay sex?

Unless you’re a self-lubricating anal king, a guy’s butt does not work in the same way as a vagina does. You might be able to get away with some spit and enthusiasm when you’re getting fucked, but most of us are very familiar with slathering on the lube before taking a hot uncut bareback cock up the ass.

The reason we use lube for anal sex is to reduce friction and make it as enjoyable as possible for everyone. The same principle applies for fisting – you need to reduce friction.

What is the danger of fisting without lube?

If you don’t use enough lube when you’re fisting, whoever is getting fisted is likely to experience pain, discomfort, and possibly injury.

You’ll also get frustrated because you won’t be able to get the fist into the hole.

What makes fisting so satisfying?

It’s perhaps difficult to understand until you’ve done it, but fisting someone and being fisted is perhaps one of the most intimate things you can do – it’s one of the most intimate ways that two men can connect.

What makes fisting particularly satisfying for the fistee is the intensity of the physical sensations that are rocking your body as a big hand stretches your hole to its limit.

As our travel slut Phil mentioned in his big Darklands 2024 adventure, fisting had its very own event spot at this dance and sex party, and with Phil’s experience of a fisting teacher in Berlin – a great pickup line, by the way – some people take their dedication to fisting and their capability as fisters very seriously.

What Type of Lube Should I Use for Fisting?

What you’re looking for is lube that enables a smoother, easier penetration as the hand works its way into the hole.

Maintaining viscosity is also essential – you want lube that continues to aid the gliding in and out. If the lube dries out or goes sticky while you are fisting then you risk tearing or irritating the sensitive internal lining of your butt.

Should I use Water Based Lube for Fisting?

The benefits of water-based lube is that it is easy to clean up and is safe to use with sex-toys. However the down-side is that water-based lube loses viscosity quite quickly and you are going to need a lot of it if you’re going to make your fisting enjoyable.

Is silicon-based lube good for gay fisting play

Silicon-based lube is generally a good option for fisting because it will stay lubricating for longer – maximising smooth glide and durability.

The downside of silicone-based lubes is that clean-up is harder – they can stain anything they come into contact with so you’re going to need to put down some towels or a waterproof sheet so you can really get down to business.

Can I use Vaseline or petroleum for lube when fisting?

Petroleum-based products such as Vaseline are not recommended for fisting because they’re more likely to irritate your body.

Traditionally, petroleum-based products also aren’t compatible with safe sex with a condom because they can compromise the integrity of the latex.

Should I use a concentrated powder lube for fisting?

If you’re seriously into fisting, you might want to explore powdered lube.

This is a concentrated version of lube in a powdered form – you need to mix it with water to get the consistency required to get the fist in the hole.

Mixing your own lube takes time – it doesn’t lend itself to spontaneous fisting hookups. But if you are planning ahead and getting organised for a major fisting session, then this could be the lube that you’re looking for – not only are they effective for reducing friction but they’re also good value for money.

Written by Gareth Johnson