The appeal of a gay underwear party is pretty obvious – guys getting together and stripping down to their briefs has an undeniable appeal.

But if you’re an underwear party virgin, the prospect may seem a little overwhelming. How does it all work? What underwear should I wear? How sexual do things get?

If you’re curious, we’re here to help.

What is a Gay Underwear Party?

Underwear parties literally come in all shapes and sizes. It could just be a house-party, or it could be a take-over of a bar, or it could be a themed night at a sex-on-premises. The common denominator is that it’s a party where men are stripped down to their underwear. Simple.

Why would you want to attend a Gay Underwear Party?

There’s lots of reasons why this kind of party might appeal to you. Maybe you’ve got a bit of an underwear fetish that you want to explore, or maybe you like the idea of a sexually-charged night out with a room full of nearly naked men. Perhaps you’re feeling good about your body – it’s never a bad idea to let the world admire every inch of your curves and swerves.

The bottom line though is that gay underwear parties are a lot of fun. They’re a bit ridiculous, a bit silly, and a bit sexy – they’re fun. In a fairly uncertain world, we should all be prioritising going out and having fun, right?

How can you prepare for a Gay Underwear Party?

Confidence

You obviously don’t need to look like an underwear model to attend a gay underwear party, but you have to go in feeling confident about who you are. This is not a time for self-esteem issues, this is not a time for comparing yourself negatively to anyone else. This is the time for embracing the energy of an underwear party – getting your kit off and having a good time.

An underwear party is a bit like a gay naked beach – everyone is obviously going to look at you and check you out, it’s just human nature. Let them look – that’s pretty much why you’re here.

Dress to Impress

Deciding which pair of underwear you’re going to be pulling out for the party is obviously an important decision, but your choices are going to be shaped considerably by just how sexual the party is going to get.

For example, if it’s a sex-on-premises venue then a jockstrap or a thong is an obvious choice. But if you’re in more of a public space, then a cute pair of briefs is probably the sensible choice.

If you’re not quite sure what the vibe of the party is going to be, it’s probably advisable to opt for a pair of briefs that you know you look good in. If things start getting a bit hot and sweaty on the dance-floor, the briefs can always come off. The briefs can very quickly and easily come off.

Open-mindedness

Who goes to gay underwear parties? Everyone! Unless you’re at some kind of circuit party, you’re going to see all ages and all body types embracing the fun of an underwear party.

We can all look awesome in underwear.

Where Can You Find the Best Gay Underwear and Gay Naked Parties?

If you’re in a city where there’s a gay bar then it’s pretty likely that they’ll be hosting an underwear party at some stage.

If not, why not start your own? All you need for an underwear party is a group of guys, some music, and some exhibitionism.

Gay Underwear Parties in New York City, Fort Lauderdale, Los Angeles, and San Francisco

• Rockbar NYC – Rockbar’s events calendar always shows cruisy underwear, jockstrap or no-pants at all parties; check their calendar to plan the best time to go.
• Zoo Underwear Party at The Spot – this NYC bar’s Zoo Underwear party repeats at the beginning of each month for some NY club fun.
• VERS NYC – This NYC club tends to have underwear parties pretty frequently; it’s a good idea to check their events page when possible for the next one coming up.
• Ramrod Leather Bar – This well-known leather bar hosts an underwear night every Tuesday; check out our gay Fort Lauderdale review from our Certified Travelling Slut Phil for more details when you’re in town.
• Bullet Bar – This Los Angeles bar features plenty of theme nights, including underwear parties and their famous CockSock Party, where the name is as you expect.
• 440 Castro – Every Monday is gay underwear night in this San Francisco bar, known as the longest-running underwear night in the Castro that gets quite an attendance.

Gay Underwear Parties Across the Globe

• Billy’s Briefs Underwear Party – Usually held at Zodiac Bar London, uber-twink influencer Billy Blonde hosts this party; this event sporadically returns to the UK. Check for future events with Zodiac or Billy’s website.
• Furball – This travelling underwear party for the bears hits gay destinations like Fort Lauderdale and Provincetown and may even hit the gay hookup bear in your local city.
• Trough: The team from Trough regularly hold parties in Australia and London. This is the kind of party where guys start off in their underwear but it comes off pretty quickly.
• Men’s Room Underwear Parties, Toronto, Canada – Canadian boys love an underwear party and it’s not surprising that a few of the village bars will have a hot undies or jockstrap dance night, especially with summer around the corner.

Written by Gareth Johnson